Beggar or Emperor

You trye to attract others attention, you dress in a certain way, you try to look beautiful, you behave, you are polite, you change. When you feel what type of situation is out there, you change so that people pay attention to you and this is begging. A real beggar is one who asks for and demands attention. And a real emperor is one who lives in himself, he has a center of his own, he doesn't depend on anybody else.

Buddha sitting under his bodhi tree and if the whole world suddenly disappeared, will it make any difference to Buddha? -none. It will not make any difference at all. If the whole world disappears, it will not make any difference because he has attained to the center. But you and me-, if the lover escapes, divorces you, goes to somebody else, we are completely shattered - because someone gave you attention, caring, loving and helped you to feel that you were somebody. Your whole empire is lost, you are simply shattered. Why? Because you don't have any center of your own. The lover was giving you the center; the family was giving you the center. This is how people exist. This is how people become dependent on others. It is deep slavery. Ego has to be a slave and it depends on others. Only a person who has no ego is for the first time a master, no longer a slave. Try to understand this and start looking for the ego - not in others, that is not your business, but in yourself. Whenever you feel miserable, immediately close you eyes and try to find out from where the misery is coming and you will always find it is the false center which has clashed with someone.